So my gaming laptop crashed and after running out of solutions I panicked and took out my hard drive from my regular laptop and put it in there to see if that would fix it, which it of course did not, and I couldn’t figure out how to put it back so for about an hour I was crying on the floor, topless, hugging two non-working laptops begging for either of them to turn on and it was such a ~defining moment~ for me. The pro is that I have one working laptop now, the con is that it’s not my gaming laptop. Technology is a cruel mistress and I am totally her bitch. 

Dr. Horrible’s Sing-Along Blog - My Eyes

Listen close to everybodys heart

And hear that breaking sound

I’m having one of those weeks where it feels like there’s a million things I want to do with my life and no time to do them. Places to go and opportunities that I’m a little too nervous to take. 

It’s so weird how I get these moments where I feel like I’m utterly running out of time and all hope for everything ever is lost. I remember how when I was fifteen, I would freak out at dance class and think “oh my god!! I’m 15 and I’ve barely accomplished what I want to accomplish!! ah!!” and now sometimes I think “oh my god!! I’m 21 and I’ve barely accomplished what I want to accomplish!!ah!!” but its strange because in both instances I still feel like I’m just a kid (in a good way). Which is a healthy way to think for me really, it reminds me to calm down and not stress out about “running out of time” so much. Every time I’m “adulting” there’s always a little part of me that kind of feels like I’m just playing House.

On the plus side I’m becoming a lot more comfortable with being openly vulnerable, and am starting to understand that that’s not a flaw in my personality; I used to feel like I had to be aggressively confident at all times -which is a great quality, don’t get me wrong- but I’m starting to learn that it’s okay to not feel that way 100% of the time, and that sometimes being awkward or shy or anxious doesn’t make me any less of a strong independent girl. 

Q

Anonymous asked:

the original post that started this shitstorm clearly specified 'rapists' and now everyone's yelling "what about poor POC wrongly imprisoned, or drug dealers trying to make a living?? so racist and classist" but like y'all literally put all those words in the OP's mouth. your argument right now is the very definition of the red herring fallacy. you're upset right now about a joke made at the expense of rapists. do you also yell at women who joke about killing their rapists? no.

A

a-little-bi-furious:

Anon, you clearly have not read anything in that thread. I know this because if you had read it you would know that OP said “rapists in prison” not just “rapists”, then the second person in that thread pointed out that most rapists do not reside in prison because our legal system is fucked, I then added that non-consesual experiments on prisoners is a thing that happens and ties into the very racist, classist and ableist prison industrial complex which is the context of the joke.

My argument is that “joke” is not very funny because it ignores that reality, you can’t seperate jokes about experimenting on prisoners, no matter what they are convicted of, from that reality and for people who are oppressed by that (ie PoC and working class people), such jokes by are fucking terrifying, especially when coming from white people.

Hell most of that shit didn’t start with the OP, it was people coming to tell me that non-consensual experiments on prisoners convicted of the worst offences was a genuinely good idea. They were not joking, I don’t find that funny, that’s actually quite horrifying to see after I and others explained why this was a bad thing.

I don’t give a shit about rapists, women who joke about killing their rapists is not the same thing as joking about a very real thing that has happened in the prison industrial complex, women who joke about killing their rapists do so out of their own pain to recover and draw power that was taken from them, you’re upset because people are pointing flaws in turning animal torture into human torture in prisons, that’s not even your pain motherfucker and it’s doubly sick if you are not a survivor.

Don’t you dare use the pain of survivors to silence the uncomfortable nature of that “joke”, don’t fucking hold making a piss poor joke above people who can no longer trust you because you dismiss human life so easily for the sake of a fucking joke, read up on the history of incarceration and human experimentation before you talk to me about what I should find funny, and fucking read what was said by scrolling through my blog before you accuse me of putting words in people’s mouths.

Can I just add onto this to mention that only 3% of rapists ever get prosecuted, so either way the joke is inaccurate since prisons are not “full of rapists”, here’s the full breakdown that I pulled from RAINN.org 

[Source]

And like a-little-bi-furious said, this joke is not funny when that is a real thing that happens to PoC. I’m sure the OP wasn’t aware of these statistics and didn’t actually mean to offend anyone, but people do have a right to be upset by that joke. 

Q

Anonymous asked:

Hey I'm sure you don't mean to make this connotation, but you should know that lots of TERFs use "a female" instead of "a woman"to imply cis women only without having to say it. Obviously the words "female" and "male" aren't like taboo or anything, but like when you have long posts talking about power differences between men and women it's worth either like throwing in some synonyms rather than using "female" and "male", or specifying that by "female" you mean women and that includes trans women

A

Oh crap, I had no idea it was trans-exclusionary, thanks for telling me, I’ll make sure to change it up next time. (Btw if you’re talking about a specific post please let me know and I’ll edit it!) 

Q

Anonymous asked:

You are such an awesome person <3 This talk about the 50 Shades thing is helpful because it is really upsetting me that there is a film. I have to ignore everything that talks about it. I just get so upset.

A

Aw thank you babe <3 I don’t blame you for ignoring it, that stuff is triggering as fuck. And it really is insanely terrifying how so many impressionable teenagers are going to see that and think that this kind of behavior is “romantic”. 

Q

Anonymous asked:

I was the anon before, the female who knows a lot of really nice male doms. I just wanted to say that I definitely understand your point and I didn't mean to sugarcoat anything, or to hide the problems. I am a rape survivor myself (multiple incidents) and I can definitely understand where you're coming from. I guess it isn't you that makes me sad, but more that it IS such a prevalent problem that accepting the good male doms is such an impossible idea.

A

No worries, that ‘sugarcoating’ comment was more about me not defending the ‘male dom’ lifestyle, not about your question. Despite our different opinions on this topic, as a fellow survivor I am 100% in solidarity with you babes <3

Q

Anonymous asked:

I didn't bother reading that 50 Shades shit. It's probably the ultimate guide as to how NOT to do BDSM while at the same time making that relationship seem empowering and awesome. And Christian reminds me of the worst kind of male dom/controlling rapist and abuser using the community to be a predator. My friend read it and filled me in. I really am not looking forward to hearing all the talk about the damn film. Urrrrgh.

A

Yeah, tbh I’m really disappointed that Jamie Dornan is playing Grey (if anything, he’s the subbiest sub to ever sub, but that’s besides the point).

I tried reading the book at one point and it really is just hundreds of pages of bad writing and glorified abuse. 

Q

Anonymous asked:

I agree with you about 50 Shades, but..... I (a female, I'm only on anon because if you disagree with me I don't necessarily want to argue, so here I am, being a coward and hiding behind a grey face) anyway, I happen to know a LOT of male doms, and YES there are some who are terrible, but they aren't really doms? They're just assholes? I know a lot of male doms who are really caring and awesome individuals. IDK, it just always makes me sad when you talk about male doms.....

A

I can definitely respect your opinion on that, and I’m sorry it upsets you but frankly, the idea of a male being a dom is not something I am accepting of-regardless of how caring or sweet they may be- because that is already their role in society, they already have a higher position of power than women, they are getting off on controlling women, and while its awesome that so many of the male doms you know are not assholes, the fact of the matter is that is is a really really huuuuge issue in the BDSM community.

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve gotten a random message online of some gross guy saying something along the lines of “I want you to be my pet” or sometimes incredibily long detailed messages about how they would come to my house and tie me up, and when I responded telling them to go fuck themselves, their response was “woah hey, I thought you would be into that, my bad”, these were not isolated incidents, and they were incredibily triggering and sometimes even made me physically sick.

So many of these guys sexualize little girls and incest, they completely overstep boundaries, I’ve heard horror stories about guys who wouldn’t leave their former subs alone, going to their house and calling them repeatedly, it’s terrifying and insulting. It’s insulting to sexual abuse survivors, and incest survivors, and as a rape survivor this insults me, as a victim of stalking this insults me. I don’t care if it’s just a fantasy, its harmful, and it’s something that seems to be incredibly common with male doms, I don’t know a single female -domme or otherwise- who would ever do half the shit that these guys do, and that really highlights for me why the idea of being a male dom is so tied in with patriarchy, no matter how empowering they try to make it seem. 

Look, if you have a male dom in your life, and you’re happy with that arrangement, I respect your choices, like you said, you’re a female, and I’m hoping youre a consenting adult, whatever you feel on this topic, it’s your valid opinion, but it’s not mine nor will it ever be, I’m not going to disclaim what I say about male doms with a “not all male doms” asterisk, if the majority of guys who call themselves doms are using this label as an excuse to harass women and act out their terrifyingly abusive fantasies then that’s a problem, and its a problem I don’t plan on sugarcoating.

luaren:

honestly can’t wait for the 50 shades movie to normalize the manipulation of lower-level female employees.  can’t wait for the new wave of “consent is sexy” banners on the cover of cosmo.  can’t wait for teen girls to think that a controlling relationship is romantic.  can’t wait for sexualized violence to become increasingly mainstream.  and most of all, i can’t wait for bdsm to be labeled a feminist revolution

(via lovesugartits)

casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn
casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn
casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn
casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn
casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn

casyougracelessass:

deancasotp:

Some gems from the #AskSupernatural tag 

Oh i liked the “it’s 2014 why everyone is straight or dead” and also “it’s ok to see dean lust for a female dog but shamefull for destiel to ever happen” i’m so gratefull that they came up with #askspn

(via bisexual-books)

katdarcy83:

nounourstm:

Rock musician Laura Jane Grace on being trans

Such a cool little interview. Lucas Silveira is totally rad too. 

(via samuelvasnormandy)

And another show dodges the “B” word

(Spoiler Alert for the latest season of True Blood)

I was so happy at the beginning of this season’s True Blood to see that one of the awesome, fairly new characters, James, was bisexual. Then after watching this week’s episode (S07E05, Lost Cause) it was so disappointing and infuriating seeing how that was handled. 

One thing I loved about James was that his character wasn’t written as a bisexual stereotype, he wasn’t overly flirtatious and promiscuous, he wasn’t manipulative; he was written like an actual human with actual emotions and weaknesses. Then in last episode’s scene where he and Lafayette make-out on the porch, I thought, okay, well that’s one bisexual stereotype, he cheated on his girlfriend Jessica, but let’s try to move on, then later when Jessica walks outside and finds James and Lafayette having sex in the car, that’s when it really became a complete mess.

For one thing, it seemed that the fact that he was cheating on her with a man made the situation a lot more insulting, and like don’t get me wrong, cheating is horrible, but the emphasis and disgust put on the word “man” in that scene seemed a little too intentional. 

Then shortly after that, there was the scene in the bathroom, with Jason consoling Jessica about what just happened, and that scene is what really did it for me. The scene starts off with Jason saying:

"You mean, with all that sensitive musician shit, it never occured to you that he might be gay?"

To which Jessica Responds:

"I don’t think that he is gay…"

Yes Jessica!

*she continues* “I think that he- he’s just confused!”

Nooooooo Jessica.

I really don’t get this. How…how was the word bisexual not even something the writers considered dropping into this conversation? It’s especially disappointing coming from this show since they’ve written a ton of multisexual characters who sleep with several genders, and actually starting to write one in a more complex way could have been a great opportunity to represent the bisexual community in a more diverse light, but they completely missed it.

It’s even more disappointing considering that the actress who plays Sookie, (the main character on that show) Anna Paquin, is an openly bisexual woman and mother, who has spoken out against bisexual stereotypes several times. Not to mention there have been other bisexual actors who have starred on the show, such as Evan Rachel Wood, so it’s not as if the writers can claim they aren’t aware bisexuality is possible. 

Maybe the writers intentionally wrote that scene with all the bisexual erasure to highlight that issue, and maybe Jame’s sexuality will actually be discussed less ignorantly in the future, but I’m not counting on it at this point. 

Q

Anonymous asked:

So I like guys and girls, but the thing is it go through phases of which gender I prefer? Is that cool? I mean there are days where I just find girls so damn attractive and guys really aren't, but then some days I find both really fucking attractive. Girls never seem to be unattractive haha. But I don't know is that normal?..I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm just trying to figure myself out.

A

A lot of multisexuals feel that way, it’s completely normal I promise you. I don’t know what sexual orientation you identify as, but it’s all okay, no one  can take whatever labels you choose for yourself away from you. 

If it makes you feel better, I’ve dated gay men before who were completely okay with dating women and still identifying as gay, like not “closeted gay men” or gay men who didnt know they were gay at the time, but openly gay men who found themselves attracted to women on occasion and still being okay with their own labels. 

If you’re a multisexual it’s probable that someone is going to try to tell you at some point that you cant identify the way you do if you sometimes feel one way or another, but trust me, they get absolutely no say in what you identify as x

  • Capitalist 1: Hey, it's Pride month, should we do anything to support queer people?
  • Capitalist 2: I heard there's a shelter for queer and trans kids who got kicked out that's going to be closing soon due to lack of funding?
  • Capitalist 1: I was thinking more along the lines of an ad campaign where we just put our logo in rainbow colors.
  • Capitalist 2: That's a much better idea