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Anonymous asked:

I think it would be nice if we have bi cafe, bakery, pastry shop, restaurant etc. We can have nice hangout place and all the bi foooooooodss! Okay, now I'm hungry.

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a-little-bi-furious:

Me too, I want this to be a thing.

Omg yes! Cupcakes with pink, purple, and blue icing! All the drinks named after bi icons! The Freddie Mercury latte will come with a mustache cookie! A 10% discount if you received a biphobic comment that day and a “bi one get one free” special if that comment was “bi means 2”! Someone be my business partner I’m a great baker!!

I made Water Tribe noodles for dinner today and in case anyone was wondering they’re amazing.  I made Water Tribe noodles for dinner today and in case anyone was wondering they’re amazing. 

I made Water Tribe noodles for dinner today and in case anyone was wondering they’re amazing. 

Places I want to visit and frankly it is quite unacceptable that I have not already: 

  • Musee D’Orsay
  • Sleepy Hollow Cemetery
  • The Ralph Waldo Emerson House
  • The Great Barrier Reef
  • Antarctica
  • The Mountains of Iran
565mae10:

I made a banner in celebration of Asexual Awareness week! Reblog to spread the message and show your support!

565mae10:

I made a banner in celebration of Asexual Awareness week! Reblog to spread the message and show your support!

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Anonymous asked:

What's wrong with Sherlock and supernatural? Sorry if it's obvious

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a-little-bi-furious:

There is a lot wrong with those shows, but a big one is queer baiting while making big “haha no homo” jokes all over the place then the creators effectively telling the fans they are silly for wanting canon representation. Kinda ruined the shows for me tbh.

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Anonymous asked:

So I have these really strong feels for this kid. Part of me really wants a future with him, but then part of me wants to wait because I still want to experiment with my sexuality. (Be with a girl, have a relationship with a girl, etc.) I'm just so confused at the moment, and need some guidance. I really value and respect your opinion. So just tell me whatever you think.

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Aw bunny I’ve been there <3 I’ve found that in general it’s best not to give up a part of yourself for someone else. If you want to explore being with girls, dating girls, etc, that doesn’t necessarily shut the door on any future you could have with that dude, you can still get to know him more or stay in touch during that time. Exploring this part of yourself is clearly an emotional need you currently have, and your needs are important. This is a need that he can’t fulfill so it could end in a lot of resentment or just general relationship unhealthiness, and who knows? You can go explore the lands of beautiful girls and then find out you still want to be with him, or you can discover that you prefer being with girls and meet a beautiful girl who takes you on dates to abandoned theatres and makes butterbeer with you at 2 am; either option (as well as several others in between) is possible but it’s better to know for sure than to wonder what that could have been like, ya know?

Queerbaiting in the Media

Queerbaiting has seemingly become the most common screenwriter’s attempt at satisfying an LGBT audience while still keeping their ratings up. For those who aren’t familiar with the term, queerbaiting is when a writer subtly hints at a character possibly not being straight but without actually saying it or having the character explore that area of themselves at all.

Supernatural, for example, has become the poster boy of queerbaiting in the last few seasons. One of the main characters, Dean, is constantly hinted at possibly being attracted to men, specifically to the character of Castiel, but no progress or character development is ever made in exploring Dean’s possible bisexuality. The reason Supernatural’s attempt at queerbaiting is particularly insulting is because they treat the possibility of bisexuality as a joke, which is strange considering Dean was based on a canonically bisexual character in Jack Kerouac’s “On the Road”. In any scenes where it is implied that Dean feels possibly attracted to someone of the same gender, his reactions and defensiveness are written as punchlines rather than serious emotions.

When I watched Orphan Black, I nearly did a double-take when I heard Delphine actually say the word “bisexuality” while speaking to Cosima about her sexuality. I wasn’t used to shows getting to the point without dancing around the topic or acting like the characters had to “pick a side”, yet Orphan Black wasted no time with queerbaiting and got straight to the point, as well as also eventually featuring a trans character in the show’s second season, acknowledging their transness, and still maintaining it’s popularity and high ratings. Orphan Black has shown that featuring canonically queer characters with rich personalities is not only a possibility, but a possibility that does not decrease ratings or popularity by any margin.

So when shows use the cop-out of saying that non-heterosexuality is something that just wont be a possible option in their show because it would alienate the audience and decrease the ratings, it’s simply not true, but it’s also a way of them saying “this is something I am uncomfortable with, but I still want to profit off of getting queer people’s hopes up”.

bbbadsunset:

So if you’re lonely, you know I’m here waiting for you

I’m just a cross-hair, I’m just a shot away from you

And if you leave here, you leave me broken shattered I lie

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lauraroselam:

bloggerslut:

I picked up a copy of Pantomime by Laura Lam about a year ago after reading a review on it by bisexual-books, and it was seriously one of the best things I’ve ever done. I was going through a sort-of weird time in my life back then and this book was so cathartic in both the way it swept you away into a whole other world but also connected you to the characters.

I have a soft-spot for books involving the circus because I have been obsessed with everything circus related growing up, so my opinion might be a little bit biased but I still think it’s the kind of story everyone can enjoy. The scenery is beautifully written, the characters are well-rounded, and the story arcs are just…mind-blowing. 

I especially think this is the kind of story that younger bisexual/genderqueer/intersex kids would really benefit from reading, because of how relatable the struggles of the characters are. While reading it, I often found myself wishing this book came out a few years earlier when I was still in high school because of how helpful it would have been with my coming out process.

If I had the money I would seriously buy this book for every queer person in the world, because I cannot recommend it enough, and if I ever get the chance to meet Laura Lam I am going to give her the biggest thank you for bringing to life these amazing characters that I am so emotionally invested in now.

NGL, this made me tear up a little. :-)

Aw gosh, thanks Laura <3 It really was an amazing opportunity to get to discover your books, I’m nearly finished with Shadowplay now and I can’t wait to read more of your work when I do ^_^

Appreciating Progress

So I suffered from an Anorexia and Bulimia for a pretty long time, and my anxiety gives me a few unrelated food anxiety issues (mainly surrounding meat) which is a bit hard at times, but I’ve been thinking about the last few years recently and how much progress I’ve made since then. I remember that at my absolute worst time, my food-related anxiety had gotten so bad that just looking at food sitting on a plate in front of me sent me into the most traumatic panic attacks, like seriously it was pretty rough.

And thinking of where I am now, how I get excited about making new dishes, or how I can respect my own boundaries when I know I can’t do something due to anxiety without thinking there’s anything wrong with me, it’s little things like that that truly make me appreciate the progress I’ve made. I know there’s still a long way to go, but I can’t help but be pretty fucking proud of myself when I do these things. Like I remember a couple of weeks ago I went a whole week without a panic attack. I was SO excited! Having an entire week free of panic attacks is a really huge deal for me!! I remember I was so happy it was one of the first things I blurted out to my therapist when I saw her, it was like Christmas, it was awesome. So while I have had panic attacks since then, I can still recognize that I’m making progress, and it’s a pretty important reminder I think ^_^   

howabouttnever:

bloggerslut:

I picked up a copy of Pantomime by Laura Lam about a year ago after reading a review on it by bisexual-books, and it was seriously one of the best things I’ve ever done. I was going through a sort-of weird time in my life back then and this book was so cathartic in both the way it swept you away into a whole other world but also connected you to the characters.

I have a soft-spot for books involving the circus because I have been obsessed with everything circus related growing up, so my opinion might be a little bit biased but I still think it’s the kind of story everyone can enjoy. The scenery is beautifully written, the characters are well-rounded, and the story arcs are just…mind-blowing. 

I especially think this is the kind of story that younger bisexual/genderqueer/intersex kids would really benefit from reading, because of how relatable the struggles of the characters are. While reading it, I often found myself wishing this book came out a few years earlier when I was still in high school because of how helpful it would have been with my coming out process.

If I had the money I would seriously buy this book for every queer person in the world, because I cannot recommend it enough, and if I ever get the chance to meet Laura Lam I am going to give her the biggest thank you for bringing to life these amazing characters that I am so emotionally invested in now.

LOOK AT HOW CUTE MY INTERNET FRIEND IS LOOK AT HER. UGHH SHE IS SO CUTE. SO. CUTE.

….WHICH IS RELEVANT BUT NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF HER BECAUSE SHE IS ALSO SUPER FRIGGEN SMART and talented and reads lots and is involved in important movements and has great taste in music and she’s a total babe and she’s SO CUTE HAVE I MENTIONED THAT YET???? AND SHE WRITES REALLY COOL ARTICLES ABOUT BISEXUALITY AND BEING A GAL IN THIS CRAPPY PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY AND INTERESTING LGBTQ TOPICS THAT I’VE NEVER HEARD OF BEFORE AND SHE IS A GOOD EXAMPLE OF HOW TO GENERALLY BE A FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING.

WATCH HER VIDEO AND GO CHECK HER OUT

LOLA I AM SO HAPPY TO BE UR FRIEND

p.s. ur voice is so cute i could die of envy like ugh. like idk what the hell i was imagining but shit babe i want your voice. and your hair. also you have the cutest smile and eyes and your make up is really good you are just SO CUTE like i think i have a crush on you????? kind of?????????

oh my gosh I love you so much hannah I’ve just been staring at this and grinning for the past 5 minutes <3

vicemag:

This Is What Developing Acute Schizophrenia Feels Like

A year ago this winter, I began to not recognize myself. 

Sleep was the first thing to change. Progressively, over the course of about two weeks, I began struggling to drift off. As a 24-year-old man with a good supply of hash, this had never been a problem before. It was so odd. Seemingly out of the blue, I’d get into bed at night and not be able to shut off my brain. Thoughts would grow tendrils and loop onto other thoughts, tangling together like a big wall of ivy. Some nights, I’d pull the covers over my head, grab my face hard in my hands, and whisper, “Shut. The. Fuck. Up.”

Eventually I would be able to get to sleep, but I’d wake up feeling peculiar, like I had forgotten to do or tell someone something. Hunger wasn’t as aggressive as it usually was during this time, either. Normally I bolt downstairs to pour a heaping bowl of Frosted Flakes the second my eyes open. Instead, I woke each morning with a sick, creeping feeling in my gut. Still, I carried on as normal, thinking I’d just lay off the hash for a bit. That was probably it. I wasn’t panicked. 

I carried on my work at a local wine shop and tried to push what was happening during the night to the back of my mind. I got through the days OK, if slightly bleary-eyed—but looking back now I can see that I had started to struggle with simple conversations. 

If my boss told me to check a delivery, it’d take me a few seconds to process what he was saying, like two or three people had said it at the same time and I couldn’t make out the clear instruction. Looking at morning delivery slips and trying to make sense of them in my head was like trying to make out a tree in the fog—possible, but hard.

Continue

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howabouttnever:

the bitchier witchier the better. 

Everyone, please take this moment to look at my goddess of a friend in all her glory. howabouttnever:

the bitchier witchier the better. 

Everyone, please take this moment to look at my goddess of a friend in all her glory.

howabouttnever:

the bitchier witchier the better. 

Everyone, please take this moment to look at my goddess of a friend in all her glory.

brommunism:

brommunism:

i dont think anyone is more serious about urban legends than theatre kids i mean once a kid had to go home from rehearsal bc he said the name of the scottish play onstage and someone punched him in the face

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of course i didnt what kind of fool do you take me for

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lizzymercierdescloux1979:

things girls do that I love:

  • offer their friends sips of their coffee drinks without being asked
  • scratch each others back
  • say things like “smell this lotion I bought this weekend”
  • compliment each other’s eyebrows 
  • that thing when they agree with you and their eyes get really wide and they nod their head solemnly 
  • throw out each others gum wrappers or chip bags when they get up 

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