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Anonymous asked:

I feel like my life and everything I'm doing is going nowhere..I just moved away to my """safe""" college and it feels like every plan I've made for myself has completely failed and I feel miserable and I dont know what to do with my life.

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Aw babe <3 I’ve been there trust me. Not with the whole college thing but with having a plan for yourself and it completely falling to pieces. 

Like when I moved to San Francisco a couple of years ago I had this very specific plan as to how my life was going to go and my life literally did a complete 180 and took a completely unexpected turn and I’m really glad it did because I’m in a much better place now.

I know it’s really frustrating when the things you planned for yourself don’t work out, and it sucks and its unfair and there is no “why” to it, it just happens and its hard and change will always happen, I know its scary but it will pass and you will get through it and you dont need to know what to do with your life, if you just moved away to college I’m guessing you’re around 17-19, you’re (probably) in a new city where you don’t know many people, so you really don’t need to know what you’re doing with your life right now <3

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Anonymous asked:

Lola how did you come out to your parents? Or are you still in the closet with them? Sorry if this sounds nosy I just want to come out to mine and don't really know how to :/

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I don’t really have a ~family~ to come out to but with my friends or just generally the people I care about I came out to them in stages, like first my best friend, then closer people, then acquaintances, then strangers, etc etc. 

I think it’s best to come out to the closest people first then expand, so that way it’ll get easier with each step and you’ll have more support, so if someone says something bad or hurtful about it, you’ll still have your main support system and you don’t feel as alone. Does that make sense? 

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Anonymous asked:

Lola how do i become super cool and pretty and popular and go to all the chic events in town and date famouzzzz people?

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I feel like this question would be extremely more appropriate for someone a little cooler than me because I just got invited to a fancy magazine launch party and the only thing on my mind is the fact that I’m going to be in heels for 4 hours which will probably lead to me tripping and falling face down into someone’s appetizer. 

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Anonymous asked:

I read in one of your articles that youve been called a bitch a lot and that makes me sad because youre one of the nicest people :(

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Thanks bunny =) It’s okay though, I can deal with it, it really doesn’t matter how nice of a person you are, if you’re a woman, you’ve been called a bitch before at some point, I’ve seen the most innocent friendly women called bitches, it’s got nothing to do with who we are, it’s just the only thing people can say when they feel threatened.

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Anonymous asked:

it's really fucking unfair when a guy gropes me when I'm out with my friends and then i end up wasting a $10 drink on his pathetic face it should be socially acceptable to demand a guy buy you a new drink if you have to use yours as a creep-repeller -____-

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ugh it really should be <3 Guys in clubs and bars (or wherever there’s alcohol) are disgusting and not worth the delicious drinks you spill on them x 

So apparently I came out to everyone when I was 7 and forgot about it till now.

I was watching TV last night and I saw a scene where a 5th grade boy professes his love to a 16 year old girl and I apparently completely repressed the memory of doing the same thing when I was like 7 on a trip to York and there was the most beautiful girl who was way older than me and had a boyfriend but later that night I wrote and illustrated an entire comic about how we were going to get married on the mountains and live forever and ever together, and then proceeded to show it to everyone around me and gave it to her the next morning and everyone thought I was like asking her to be my friend in a completely platonic way?? Amazing =’)

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Anonymous asked:

How do you deal with MRAs who insist on pestering you about how you don't care about men's issues or how more men are murdered or why is rape only a woman's issue or general garbage like that?

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My personal method of dealing with it is ignoring them and not giving them any attention because the few times in the past I’ve actually tried to explain it to them was like talking to a wall, they don’t want an answer, they just want to try to prove you wrong. 

However, I understand that some people aren’t okay with simply ignoring them and if you actually want to confront them about it, you can just ask them what have they done in the past to benefit rape survivors, both male and female? If they genuinely believe feminists don’t care about male victims, okay, then what have they done for male victims? What have they done for female victims? What have they done for anyone? Another common thing MRAs like to go on about is how women in third-world countries have it way worse than women in America (which is true) and we shouldn’t complain about “silly things like campus college rape and wage gaps” (which is not true). So what have they done to help women in other countries? What have they done for the girls in countries who have endured FGM (female genital mutilation) or child brides, child soldiers, or men being taken from their homes, beaten by the police and thrown in jail for being gay, the list goes on.  

Good feminism should be working to focus on all of these issues, however what MRAs are really saying is not “you don’t care about other victims and I do” what they’re saying is “you should shut up and take it until i think it’s bad enough that you’re allowed to complain”. Men’s Rights Activists don’t care about men, they don’t care about men of color or trans men or anyone except the cisgendered straight white male and maintaining the privilege that they’ve had for centuries so that they don’t have to actually be held accountable for all the crap they’ve done. 

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Anonymous asked:

You've said before that you plan to write Catman's bisexuality into canon, so... what type of guys is he into?

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gailsimone:

Good question.

I bet they have a moustache, though.

Catman is bisexual??! WOOHOO!!!

I just found leggings with the entire script of Hamlet written on them, I don’t need anything else in life. 

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Anonymous asked:

Do you consider yourself sex-positive? Do you think it is possible to be sex-positive and critical?

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I mean I’m sex positive in the sense that “everyone can have sex with whomever they want, or not ever have sex with anyone at all and both options are okay”, but the ‘sex positive’ movement is full of gross dudes pretending to have a feminist outlook on life when they really just want to demean a girl, get laid, and pat themselves on the back for ‘helping a woman feel liberated’. 

So I think you can have a positive outlook on sex and believe that people’s choices on whether they want to have sex or not are always valid, and absolutely it’s always good to criticize and question everything you believe in, otherwise you’re just a thoughtless follower or one of those people that says “I have fantasies about raping women and i treat my girlfriend like shit but you can’t kink shame me!!!!”.

So yeah it’s definitely possible to believe in something yet still criticize it, it’s encouraged actually.

I don’t know if I’ll ever get over that one time last October when someone messaged me here on tumblr asking me to be a part of the group of people who changed their icon for the month of October to a picture with “Save The Tatas” written on it because I was “popular on tumblr” and would have a lot of impact.

And instead of telling him to shove it, I decided to stay calm and explain to him peacefully that while I’m sure his intentions were good, demeaning women as a breast cancer campaign was problematic and objectifying so I would have no part in that.

And the response I got was “oh, ok, I disagree but your choice” as if we were having a freaking debate about women’s bodies and not me just stating the most obvious thing on the planet that objectifying women’s breasts as a part of faking awareness was the most cheap, disgusting thing you could do, like the amount of arrogance and entitlement some men have is astounding. 

So yeah, basically if I get that type of message again this October I’m going to stick with the “Shove it” mentality except extra angry and bitter this time. 

policymic:

The real reason we blame women when bands break up

When Courtney Love was pregnant with Kurt Cobain’s daughter, he gave her a Yoko Ono box set. She threw it at his head.
He meant it lovingly, but when fans started making the comparison between Love and Ono last week, they meant it as viciously as possible. Ono, John Lennon’s wife, is broadly known in our culture as the woman who broke up the Beatles. She inaugurated a long line of blaming women for what is, at its most basic level, dudes being unable to get along. Ladies seem always to be catching flak for meddling in the affairs of men, especially when it comes to wrecking rock bands. The ghost of Ono (who’s still alive) looms large in the minds of male rock fans. And it’s consistently used to shame women.
It’s time to set the record straight.
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policymic:

The real reason we blame women when bands break up

When Courtney Love was pregnant with Kurt Cobain’s daughter, he gave her a Yoko Ono box set. She threw it at his head.
He meant it lovingly, but when fans started making the comparison between Love and Ono last week, they meant it as viciously as possible. Ono, John Lennon’s wife, is broadly known in our culture as the woman who broke up the Beatles. She inaugurated a long line of blaming women for what is, at its most basic level, dudes being unable to get along. Ladies seem always to be catching flak for meddling in the affairs of men, especially when it comes to wrecking rock bands. The ghost of Ono (who’s still alive) looms large in the minds of male rock fans. And it’s consistently used to shame women.
It’s time to set the record straight.
Read more | Follow policymic

policymic:

The real reason we blame women when bands break up

When Courtney Love was pregnant with Kurt Cobain’s daughter, he gave her a Yoko Ono box set. She threw it at his head.

He meant it lovingly, but when fans started making the comparison between Love and Ono last week, they meant it as viciously as possible. Ono, John Lennon’s wife, is broadly known in our culture as the woman who broke up the Beatles. She inaugurated a long line of blaming women for what is, at its most basic level, dudes being unable to get along. Ladies seem always to be catching flak for meddling in the affairs of men, especially when it comes to wrecking rock bands. The ghost of Ono (who’s still alive) looms large in the minds of male rock fans. And it’s consistently used to shame women.

It’s time to set the record straight.

Read moreFollow policymic


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Anonymous asked:

I'm not really sure what sources the previous anon was looking at, because everything reliable I've read on it has confirmed it to be at least partially true. It's really a scary situation and I think it's dangerous to deny the reality of the growing anti semitism in Russia and the Ukraine, which of course have a long history with anti-semitism.

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it’s ridiculous and a complete violation of human rights, even if it were just from a hate group its horrible, but if this is actually a government thing then that’s incredibly fucked up and is pretty much exactly how the holocaust began in the first place. Either way yeah you’re right, it is dangerous to ignore the pattern of what’s going on, especially with everything that happened lately.

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Anonymous asked:

About the jewish registration in ukraine, it is not government sanctioned. It was a disgusting antisemetic prank but it is not a real thing that is happening. The fliers are real but not from any real source. Still its beyond fucked.

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Oh okay, yeah, that’s what I read afterwards, in the article it seemed like a few political figures commented on it saying that it was legitimate but everything was sort of hazy, I think they mean it’s “real” as in, not a hoax or a fake story but something that is infact happening, that’s what I meant anyways, still incredibly messed up though, yeah.